Jack’s Marriage Empowerment - Marital Food For Thought - Jack’s Marriage Project

54. External Factors Do both spouses take marital decisions? Are the decisions influenced by third parties? Is the union controlled by external others? Are marital secrets spread far and wide? Is this of any benefit to the family unit? Is it necessary to have external influence ? Is it better to have just a couple of confidants, those who’ll add value, and not fuel? Could these be people of integrity or people that you look up-to? Could these be people with honest opinions and people with maturity ? Could these be constructive people who will add value to your union? Are they much better than the majority? Who may not give a care for your failure? Which external factors will you choose or maybe, you could solve all problems alone?

53. Social Circles The environment and people around you have great impact on your personality.  If you surround yourself with smart people, there’s a great chance that smartness will rub off on you. If you surround yourself with optimists, you’re likely to become an optimist. How do you choose your social circles? Do you leverage alumni from primary to tertiary institutions? From religious affiliations? From business and work pursuits? From landlord and tenants organisations? From social associations of interest? From online associations of similar minds? From family members that you resonate with? From mentors and coaches that add value? From one or more of the above or from none of the above?

52. Income And Finances Passive income Main income Investments Business Collaborations Owning assets and Properties Budgets Short and long term investments Stocks and shares Cryptocurrency? Business / Entrepreneurship Online business(es)  Offline business(es)  Joint or sole business ventures

51. When the going gets tough Have you always lived a life of comfort with little or no troubles? Has your journey been  sailing smoothly with nothing to worry about? And then, challenges visit your life not once, but in chunks? Could it be ill health ? Could it be loss of income ? Could it be relationship issues ? Could it be debt ? Could it be bereavement ? Whatever it is, do you run from the problems or do you face them? Do you act alone or do you seek support? Do you drown in your sorrows or you find a way to better your tomorrow? Do you seek Divine Help or you’re too big to be humble? When the going gets tough and life humbles you, how do you react? Let this be some food for thought .  

50. Mentors and Marriage Could it be beneficial to have mentors?  Who are mentors? Those whom you look up to, and trust Those who could add value to your relationship and life Those who will share best practices to follow? And share pitfalls to avoid Those who will share invaluable life experiences? And share marital nuggets. Those who will signpost you in the right direction and will dare to be frank with you Those who will empathise with you and get you out of murky waters Those who will mediate and have your best interest at heart 

49. Work Life Balance Do you spend your life working? Are you married to your job ? Does this impact your domestic relationships ? Do you spend quality time with family and friends ? Do you have holidays? Do you have leisure activities? What if you lose that job ? What if sickness overtakes you ? What if the work environment is unfavourable ? What if you require help from family and friends ? Could you reap where you did not sow ?  Is there more to life than work ? Could you give yourself a break from work ? And have a rounded life? Or will you choose to be consumed by work and all but work alone?  Just remember that if you become sick or dead, the workplace will replace you sooner than later, and within weeks or months, you can easily be forgotten.